The D/s relationships that matter are the ones where the sub has worked hard and sacrificed to provide for his Domme, the ones where he puts Her above all else, and the ones where he is 110% loyal. So many fake subs, timeswasters, and fetishists are out there constantly claiming that a Domme only cares about the money and not the sub. Well, yes, We care about the money because that's what the financial domination fetish is all about. Money. Getting it, spending it, getting more, and spending more. We're a luxury that very few subs are blessed enough to be a part of.
But even with financial domination there is a dynamic that is built between Domme and sub that mirrors your basic D/s relationship with femdom. Money is of the utmost important when it comes to findom but that doesn't mean the subs We come to own We care nothing about. In fact, that's the furthest thing from the truth. For Us to be willing to own any sub, there has to be caring involved.
FinDommes take time getting to know subs for far more reasons than obtaining different ways to mindfuck them into submission. And We don't only need to know what fetishes and kinks they love or hate so a session can run smoothly. We take time getting to know subs because We TRULY want to know who they are: the man as well as the sub. With My subs I've gotten to know what their vanilla interests are, what kind of foods they like to eat, and what movies they like to watch, plus more. I enjoy knowing these things, knowing what it was about Me that appealed so much to them, and where they see themselves in the future. I love knowing what they're feeling and thinking on any given day or helping them with any problems they are facing because that's how much I care. I want that line of communiation open in more ways than kink alone so we can evolve on different levels.
When a Domme gets the responsibility of owning a sub, She takes on more than just a person who pays to play. She takes on someone who is willing to devote their life to Them, someone who's willing to lay it all out there like any other vanilla relationship.
With My subs, I care about you because you are people who had the strength to put Me in charge of your lives. I care about you because you're making Me part of your lives as much as you're part of Mine. How can I feel good about owning you if I don't care about you at all? Sure, it's different with a community sub or a session sub because there is nothing being built as far a relationship goes. There is no attachment being established with those kind of subs because that's how THEY prefer it - at least for the time being.
So don't go thinking that We don't care just because money is involved in Our fetish. That's why it pays to learn about a kink before jumping to conclusions and shaming it, or having a bad experience and think shaming Us all is the only way to make up for it. You're not hurting anyone but yourself. As far as My subs go, they are well-cared for and that will never change, even if/when the times comes to us to part ways. They may be subs but they're still PEOPLE.
This of course bears thinking about subs who prefer to be human ATM's or the kind of sub who chooses to be ignored. Still, understanding them and why they're the kind of sub they are is something that any Domme needs to think about, also, ESPECIALLY if they're under consideration. No matter what sub a Domme has, there's so much more that goes into what they have besides him giving Her money. Don't assume otherwise.
Picture Credit: Both images found on the web and I believe they are from the works of Michael Makai.
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