Getting Back into the Findom Scene

You've heard of subs leaving the Findom scene for various reasons. Dommes leave Findom for a variety of reasons as well. I left the scene a long time ago for a swarm of reasons that I won't go into now because that's beyond the scope of what this blog is about. But what I want to talk about is Dommes getting back into Findom after some time and re-adjusting to this particular lifestyle.

I spent years away from the Findom scene and, as I've mentioned before, I decided to come back after feeling the Domination fire begin to burn in me after laying dormant for so long. I knew early on that it would not be easy for me to get into the scheme of things and get used to how things were, especially when realizing that so much changed about Findom in many bad ways - instadommes ruining the scene and causing genuine subs not to trust genuine Dommes, and fake subs frustrating and taking advantage of Dommes who've worked hard to get to where they are.

I worked hard to build Myself up in the community, although nothing like I'm doing now, and I had subs who were committed to Me in ways I no longer needed when I decided to retire. I wanted that back with a vengeance, to own, to be worshipped, to express Myself freely in a way I hadn't in a long time. I know there are Dommes out there who can understand that: wanting to take time away and then finally feeling ready to come back.

But none of that can happen without a few stumbles along the way.

If you're just now getting back in the scene or are thinking about getting back in the scene but are hesitant, don't be afraid to take baby steps and figure out who you are in this lifestyle. Being Dominant is always going to be a part of you in some way so that's not something you have to worry about. It's normal to feel apprehension or even a little confused. But when you are back into the scene and make a few stumbles, just know that you're not alone and that it's completely normal.

Just like new Dommes have made genuine mistakes when first starting out, it's entirely understandable for you to make a few mistakes while re-growing your Domme legs. There are a few mistakes that I made in the first few days I started back in the community, mistakes that made Me want to kick myself in the ass for not remembering them in the first place. And a couple of them were such obvious mistakes and I can't help but laugh about it now. But it had been so long, I told Myself that I still had to adjust, and take a little time to remember some of the things I'd forgotten about. I'm sure some of you are reading this wondering "how the hell is it possible to forget basic things if you were once in the community?" Believe me, it is. It happens. And that's nothing to be ashamed of. Having experience with something doesn't mean there won't be a few things you may forget, especially if you go an extended period of time being away from a community where it's necessary to remember them. Nevertheless, I did what I had to do, rebuilding my brand stronger than ever, and I've established Myself.

Take time to remember your previous Domme experience and take it from there. What is it about your previous experience that you want to bring back or reinvent? Make a list of some of the things that were crucial to you as a Domme. Get to know people in the community and reacquaint yourself with Domme friends you used to roll with, if they're still Dommes. Verify yourself and get to work on content. Stay consistent and keep yourself relevant. These are the things I'm sure you know, of course. Your knowledge about this stuff will always be in your head, but it doesn't hurt to make sure it stays sharp. Hell, even doctors are constantly reading books and learning years after finishing med school and even have their own practice. Just like there's nothing wrong with being a new Domme, there's nothing wrong with making sure you take the time to remember the things you should to make that splash in the community.

You owe it yourself to be the best you can be when reentering the Findom scene. Don't let the fear of making honest mistakes hold you back and if you do make them, take it as a learning experience and pass it onto to newer Dommes. Remember, there's a big difference between making honest mistakes and purposefully doing the opposite of what you should be doing without any regard to your reputation in the community. And if established Dommes can slip up yet still take it all in stride, you can too.